Friday 24 February 2012

maybe baby II

"During my twenties and thirties, I had viewed fatherhood in much the same way as I approached the idea of reading War and Peace: I assumed it would be inarguably rewarding, but it just felt too daunting, too time-consuming and just too much like hard work."



This sentence by British journalist Sarfraz Manoor in the march issue of Marie Claire rang a bell with me.
Do you know the feeling? You are in a stable relationship, you have reached the magic 30, have a house and will graduate very soon. Everything seems to shout: procreation!
And in some moments you think "yeah, that´s exactly what I want! And I want it now"...and then there are moments where you sort of know that you want it but hmm, not now, not yet, still plenty of time...
Why is there always such a big discrepancy between wanting something and actually taking the plunge and doing it? If you believe the common opinion the perfect moment doesn´t exist...but what if the moment is perfect and you just don´t see it out of fear and unwillingness to allow changes into your life?
A while ago I dreamed I gave birth without knowing that I was pregnant at all. And do you know which weird thought occupied my mind in the dream? "Perfect, at least that takes the decision away now"
Says it all, doesn´t it?

7 comments:

  1. Knowing excactly what you mean...

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  2. Der richtige Augenblick kommt nie. Ich habe schon mit mehreren Bekannten gesprochen, die Kinder haben. Denen ging es genau so. Und erst als sie dann schwanger waren hatten sie eine klare "Entscheidung". Einfach angehen, das Zweifeln bleibt noch ne Weile. :o)

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  3. Das Problem ist ja auch das der richtige Zeitpunkt da ist...und ich trotzdem zögere*seufz

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  4. alle meine freunde bekommen im moment kinder (all anfang 30), und bei absolut allen war es geplant. das macht mir fast mehr sorgen. ich will eigentlich keine kinder, mach mir aber so ein wenig sorgen, dass ich das irgendwann mal bereue. und will ich wirklich keine kinder, oder bilde ich mir nur ein, dass das nicht der richtige moment ist? und warum scheint jeder um mich rum genau zu wissen, was los ist? - zumindestens im echten leben, nicht online....

    *seufz*

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  5. was sagt denn dein mann? der hat ja auch n wörtchen mitzureden?

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